24 Aug 2008 No Comments
Really, we’ve all needed a good weekend. A restful time of connection. That it included delicious intimate moments only made it seem even more a salve to the raw emotions exposed during the past few weeks. A sense of a sighing out by the whole psyche, releasing stale, bound up energy that had collected in the dark corners.
Fun to ride around the past day with CK. Just being able to enjoy hoping on the bicycle to over there, in to downtown for dinner, to yoga, to Laughing Planet on Mississippi, and back to the house. My legs feel it, the riding and yoga today on top of the hours in the car yesterday. I like to be able to have this option of just moving myself around the city and not be in the car. That it has become something I share with CK, her passion about bicycling is something of her that I enjoyed immediately, is really special.
After lunch and a ride back to her flat we slid into intimacy again, so delightful and easy. Both last night and this afternoon I felt myself shaking. More than just passion, or even pent-up desire, but relief, gratitude, love, and a sense of being held close emotionally. The container of our relationship expanding again, growing to enfold new experiences and needs recognized.
I rode back to the house in the rain (with no gear, I hadn’t checked the weather forecast), but it was still warm outside and the drops weren’t coming down fast. I’m making it to the house 5 minutes faster these days and I kind of enjoyed it. When I got to the house I put on some dry clothes and went down to the basement and hung out with AM.
It was great to find out that he and KW had a wonderful night together too, their one year anniversary of dating. Things have been pretty rough for the two of them, since March really. She has had a lot going on and it has really taken her energy away from really maintaining, much less building their relationship. They also were able to enjoy a really wonderful night of connection and intimacy. I have to admit it was nice to come home to really good news like this given how disconnected they’ve been.
AM and I’ve just hung out this evening. Having something of a vegan “junk food” dinner and watching episodes of Later… with Jools Holland. I’ve got more cleaned up and put away in the shala room. Yes, in part I’ve done this by moving everything into the living room, but it gets the majority of it closer to being out of the house.
Maybe it is the Zen practice, but there are times with things that I just feel overwhelmed. Papers seem really tough, maybe that’s just because I’ve been finding some many old papers these past few weeks, and of those things that have stirred up painful memories. I find stuff I wrote, teenage poetry and the like, and I’m not sure what to do with it. Part of me really wants to keep it, but part of me just wants to be rid of it all. I think I’m going to get some shelves for the shala and my room, with baskets to hold these papers. At least if they’re away maybe I’ll feel better about having them around.
Last night, before going to bed I’d sent MT my article for Ink on the Cat. She hasn’t written back, although I don’t expect that people are always going to be into their email on weekends, and I find myself wishing she would! Somehow, for all the poetry I’ve shown people over the years I feel anxious about this bit of prose. It is very personal and the prose is more revealing, exact than the concise words of a poem. I’m also talking about how I’ve felt excluded, so it feels revealing to share it.
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